As many of you probably know, I put up a blog post about a week ago entitled “My Diaper Pride Flag.” In that post, I showcased multiple versions of this “pride flag” and explained why I designed it the way I did.
After my post here, I shared my design on Reddit (on r/ABDL, to be specific). Side note: I mentioned my Reddit presence in my previous post about the XL Goodnites, but I don’t think I have mentioned it before. Truth be told, I believe I started my Reddit account in order to promote this blog on r/ABDL when I first started it. I think I had only ever browsed r/ABDL before then. After my post announcing this blog, I have mostly just been a browser/lurker. I have at times been very active in browsing the page, but I have rarely had the inclination to post or comment. (The reasons why are perhaps the subject for another post.)
Anyway, back to the main story. Here on my blog, I only got one comment about the flag, and it was positive. This comment actually came in after I had already gotten a lot of feedback on Reddit. Well, I say a lot, but all I mean is that it was a lot to me. Anyway, most of the feedback I got on Reddit at first was negative or critical, but I did get more positive feedback as time went on. (View the post and comments with this link.)
After having mulled over the feedback for about a week, I would like to indirectly respond to some of the criticism and then directly respond to a particular criticism. To begin with, I want to clarify my intentions in creating my design. I was not trying to take it upon myself to bestow a symbol upon AB/DLs or the larger diaper wearing community. Nor was I trying to replace any of the symbols that had previously been accepted (to one degree or another) by the AB/DL community. I was simply introducing a new symbol that I thought did a good job of representing most diaper wearers.
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For a long time, I’ve had the idea of creating an AB/DL pride flag. The idea began with a question: Is there an AB/DL pride flag? When I thought of this question, I searched for one on the internet, and the only one I could find was created by someone named David and posted on abdlscandinavia.com. This flag was created in 2004, which is a very long time ago in Internet Time, where people are constantly posting all kinds of new creative images. I have seen David’s flag used a little bit in online ABDL circles, such as on Reddit, but not much.
Personally, I do not like David’s flag very much. I have two main reasons:
- I do not like the colors. The pink and blue do not appeal to me, especially in combination and especially done in stripes with different shades. This is partly because pink and blue in combination evoke the idea of babies (since pink is usually attached to baby girls and blue is typically attached to baby boys). It’s no secret that I’m a Diaper Lover and not an Adult Baby. So, the colors do nothing for me other than reference a part of the AB/DL spectrum that I do not identify with.
- The diaper pin is too obvious. This is especially true given the fact that it is designed to look like it is clipped onto a diaper (the diaper being represented by a white background). I know, I know. It’s supposed to be a PRIDE flag, so why shouldn’t the reference to diapers be obvious? Well, I can’t say that it shouldn’t. I’m just saying that I personally don’t like it. Maybe it should be obvious and I’m wrong. It’s just that I tend to see a pride flag primarily as an indicator for members of a community to identify other members, not as an indicator for non-members to identify members.
Whether I’m right or wrong about the main purpose of a pride flag, it’s certainly true that the diaper pin graphic is not representative of AB/DL for the majority of those in the community because the majority of us do not use diapers with pins. Most of us use disposable diapers with tabs. In fact, if I really wanted to debate the diaper pin design, I could say that it doesn’t evoke diapers as well as a tab visual would; most non-AB/DLs are most familiar with disposable diapers because those are the kind used for most babies.
Just in case David or any fans of the flag happen to be reading this, I should be sure to clarify that I do not hate the flag design. I certainly do like some things about it, such as the shape surrounding the diaper pin and the way the stripes jet off of it and only fill the middle of the flag. That is pretty cool, in my opinion.
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